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I read this article and it truly touched my heart as I deeply related to it....Enjoy.
“Dating” is one word that stirs up so many fears. More than anything in life, STRONG, Independent women fear uncertainty. Often times it is easier for us to hold on tightly to the “nothing” that we have than to release ourselves to the uncertainty of what “may be” out there. Is it time for you to begin dating again? A wise woman knows what season of life she is in. I went through a season where dating was not an option for me. I was wholeheartedly committed to evolving in my spiritual walk and strengthening my faith. My heart and mind was being prepared for the high calling of being a wife and mother. But one day, I discerned that season was over. I knew it was time to open my heart to the man who would eventually find me. Dating requires us to release our fear of the unknown and open ourselves to the possibilities of attracting the love we desire. Dating should not cause us stress or anxiety because we are trying to prove our worth to a man. When we strive to prove our worth to a man, we devalue ourselves. Role reversal is so common in our society that women are losing what is most attractive to a man…their ability to be feminine, inviting, alluring and yes available to date!
REAL men, aim to PLEASE!
Dating may seem like hard work, but it should not be. It should actually be a time that we honor ourselves as women by allowing ourselves to simply be. Taking care of a woman and showing her a good time feeds a need within a REAL man’s heart, a desire to know he is “performing well.” With men, their deepest questions are always centered on that one principle: Performance. A man will ask himself “Am I doing okay, did I perform well?” When we relax and simply receive, we can answer that question for them with better clarity and honesty. The most beautiful woman in the room is a woman who is at peace with God and herself, this woman has nothing left to prove. Ladies, let’s stay in our own lane while dating, let a man be a man and let him lead, you be a woman and receive and observe.
Roles don’t diminish us; they protect, honor and uphold us.
Just like a precious stone or a diamond, something is considered valuable if it is rare. A woman who understands her role and is not afraid to be vulnerable because she knows her worth is rare. A woman whose heart is at rest possesses a quiet inner confidence that causes a man to feel at ease in her presence. When a man is at ease he just might open up and share his heart, his past struggles and his future hopes and dreams. When you are relaxed on a first date or in the early stages of dating you place yourself in a prime position to perform the most crucial task of dating…gathering information.
The director and producer of your life script.
When a man wants to take you out on a date, you are in the role of director/producer of your life script; you are auditioning a man to play the role of a lifetime. Growing up in Los Angeles, the majority of my closest friends work in the entertainment industry. I have learned from them, that when a performer comes into audition, they are “trying out,” they are in the hot seat. The director and producer listen. They will speak only as needed to draw out more from the person auditioning. The director and producer are there to observe and gather information about the kind of performer they might be casting in their production. Likewise as women, we are in the producers/directors chair. Do not lose your peace by forfeiting your role. If you spend the entire date nervously talking and trying to impress him, how will you judge or discern the man? The next time you are on a first date, pay close attention to the subtle messages that your heart is whispering, this is how you gather wisdom to proceed in moving forward with this man in the audition process or yelling out “NEXT!” By Shannon Yvette...
Last words: It is never too late or too early to give your heart another chance at Love...Most times we think we have hit the mark with a particular person until we look even closer. Patience is extremely crucial in any relationship/marriage...Take time out to study and under study. Always maintain your personality but realize that the Man is the Head and should remain so, if not, you will never fulfill your divine role as a woman.
XOXO
Simply Cheska.
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